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Over the last few years cannabis has unexpectedly earned the title of top lifestyle trend in America. This exciting new change is one cannabis aficionados had always hoped for, but didn’t always see coming. Thankfully, with the current legalization of recreational cannabis in 11 states and medical marijuana available in over half the nation, this so-called “weed” is finally getting the respect she deserves. It’s a long way from the familiar comfort cannabis experienced within the shadows of an illegal market for over a century. The use of this plant as a recreational and medical agent may seem unconvincing to some skeptics. Fair enough, there have been a lot of misconceptions surrounding cannabis for the past 100 years. However, with countless anecdotal experiences and positive feedback shared from consumers worldwide, it’s becoming a lot harder for the naysayers to deny this incredible plant’s therapeutic properties. Whether you’re a veteran battling with PTSD, a stressed-out mom suffering from insomnia, a senior living with chronic pain, or even a 2020 presidential candidate racing towards the White House - it seems like almost everyone has hopped aboard the cannabis consumption train in need of some serious healing.
America is slowly becoming synonymous with cannabis, but if there’s anything Americans love more than cannabis, it’s sex. As a society we’re utterly infatuated by it, and with good reason. For consensual adults sex can be the greatest, most electrifying, physical manifestation of love, intimacy, and connection there is. As humans we’ve been doing it for so long, one might assume all sex is like this for everyone, every time. But, alas, it’s not. Though our anatomy hasn’t changed much since the days of our cave-dwelling ancestors, humans are really complicated beings and something as natural as sex can still feel foreign. For some people sex can be perpetually overwhelming and result in multiple lackluster experiences over time. For others, sex can actually be physically painful. These unconventional truths are real for both binary and non-binary genders alike. No matter how you identify, one wrong move or unwanted thought in the bedroom, and a passionate moment can be compromised almost immediately. We've all been there; your mind begins to wander at the worst possible moment and before you know it, you’re out of your body and totally in your head. Too many of these little mishaps, which are totally natural by the way, and you might feel anxious or confused whenever sex is on the table. The truth is sex should feel empowering. Every single one of us deserves a healthy, fun, and fulfilling sex-life. Not surprisingly, cannabis may help you achieve this.
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Dr. Emily Morse, a Doctor in Human Sexuality from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco, has some insight into why cannabis could be advantageous in the bedroom. “Cannabis can help both [non-binary and binary genders] to relax more into their bodies so that an orgasm is more likely to happen, as well as the potential to be more intense” Dr. Morse explains. “Experimenting with cannabis to enhance your sex life is very different than getting ‘high’. If cannabis hasn’t worked for you in the past, don’t rule out the other ways of experimenting or ingesting that can actually enhance sexual pleasure and help lessen pain [from sex]” shares Dr. Morse. She continues by stating “THC and CBD can be helpful for painful sex issues, like vaginismus and endometriosis, as well.” A great cannabis company to research for sexual enrichment is Foria. Their team is committed to developing cannabis infused products dedicated to the sexual enhancement, and pain relief of their consumers. Their CBD infused lubricant “Awaken” is a phenomenal choice for beginners dabbling with cannabis.
It’s not the first time in recent history that the benefits of consuming cannabis are being showcased publicly. Its healing effect on the human body became particularly apparent during the 1980’s and 90’s, when AIDS and cancer patients living in Northern California were finding relief by smoking and ingesting the herb. For years the LGBTQIA community and its allies, including cannabis activists “Brownie Mary” and Dennis Peron, heroically fought for the legalization of this plant medicine that was intrinsic to enhancing the lives of their ill-fated loved ones. It’s an important part of cannabis history our nascent industry has sadly overlooked. Still, regardless of its mention or not, cannabis never stopped elevating the lives of the queer community. Interestingly enough a recent study published in the journal Drug and Alcohol Dependence discovered that cannabis consumption rates among gay, lesbian, and bisexual adults are higher than heterosexuals who also consume cannabis. “I think that before there was even medicine developed, and I don’t know this for sure, but I would assume that cannabis was around to help people cope. Especially within the gay community” says Indica Sativa, an LA based drag queen with an affinity for marijuana. It’s true that cannabis has a certain way of putting life (and all of its complexities) into a brighter, less daunting perspective. Through mindful cannabis consumption we’re able to travel inward, becoming fully immersed in the glory of our own awesomeness. So you can imagine what genuine self-love and deep sense of euphoria might do for your sex-life. “I think if you smoke [cannabis], you [already] know sex is better when you’re high. Any substance is probably gonna make sex better, but I think with cannabis in particular, it stops you from overthinking. You’re able to go into it feeling free and open to experiment” claims Indica Sativa. “I’m usually focusing on tomorrow, when I need to be focused on today. I think smoking cannabis helps me balance out that mixture of anxiety and paranoia. There have been times where I’ve given myself a month break from cannabis, but realistically smoking helps me release the tension. I remember I was in a relationship one of the times I’d taken a break. We would fuck, and I’d think of how much better it would be with a joint” she confesses while sipping her black coffee.
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It seems like cannabis has the potential to bring an individual closer to their own sensuality, too. With each inhale and exhale, cannabis moves us further from the distracting thoughts of insecurity and self-doubt, and closer to our own innate eroticism. “Sensuality is the expression and pursuit of pleasure – sexual or not. When I encourage people to focus on their sensuality, I recommend starting with their senses. When we fully engage all of our senses, we’re able to drop into the present moment and really feel what’s going on in our body. It’s also a great exercise to get out of our head and into our body” according to Dr. Morse.
Mindfulness mixed with cannabis in the bedroom can certainly help partners connect on a deeper level. And we’re not just blowing smoke up your skirt, either. Neuroscience shows that THC, a psychoactive compound in cannabis, enhances the cell-to-cell communication within our brain, meaning it elevates the original message being communicating between neurons. That’s why everything seems so awesome when you’re stoned. Your brain is literally sending the message that this experience, however exciting or mundane, is exponentially better because you’re high. Which leads me to believe that there are a lot of experiences that might be enhanced with adequate cannabis consumption. But what that consumption level looks like is entirely subjective. Rest-assured though, easing into cannabis experimentation might be the most fun way of maximizing your own potential in and out of the bedroom.